Connection – Saturday Soul with Sandy Hibbard

That Place [In all it’s glory]

Sandy Hibbard — Thu, 01 Nov 2018 06:05:40 +0000

I’m nervous as a cat

Wonder what he’ll look like?

What will I feel when I see him?

What will he think when he sees me?!

oh my god

I feel so much emotion right now

I want to hide in the bathroom and cry

Jesus!

I got here early

I’m almost finished with my first old-fashioned

I’m channeling the energy of Hemingway tonight

Maybe I will free the Ritz

Set it back to it’s blazing glory

Ok, let’s drink

The rest will be left to chance

Time and circumstance

Will tell our story

Getting a Connection in Today's Almost Anti-Social World

Sandy Hibbard — Sun, 08 Oct 2017 15:30:52 +0000

“Connection is the energy that is created between people when they feel seen, heard and valued, when they can give and receive without judgment.” ~ Brene Brown

I totally believe this to be true and the key phrase to me is “without judgment”. The first thing that turns most of us off and will shut down the communication lines quicker than anything is to feel like we are being judged for who we are, what we are doing, what we say, believe and want. When we give our children and loved ones the feeling that they are valued, when we listen to them because we care, when we open our hearts to understanding and don’t pass judgment, then we are able to realize a true connection to communication. It’s like a good therapist who sits and listens without a judgmental response while you ramble through your mistakes and bad choices.

The “energy” that is created through true connection is a bond that can offer love, bring healing, deepen relationships, and inspire. So, the next time you engage that person – a love, a child, co-worker, friend or family – give them your attention. Listen to what they are saying without your come-back or response. Don’t judge – accept what they have to say as coming from their experience and their perspective…and see what happens!

We are each a Universe within!

Love and peace,
Sandy

Quote from Brene Brown, author of Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead

It Happened The Moment I Saw You…

Sandy Hibbard — Wed, 16 Aug 2017 21:01:11 +0000

Another beautiful excerpt from Avastave’s continuing exploration of love. If you have ever truly been in love with someone where the connection was so strong, then you will understand this. It’s not about losing your life or yourself to someone else, but instead it is about a unique blending of two lives and hearts together. It is indeed a gift and you are lucky if you have ever experienced it. Sandy

There are so many words to describe how I felt the moment I saw you, and a multitude more on why I will never leave. In the end if I could summarize what I felt for him, it wasn’t love, at least not in its fleeting form. It was beyond love, it was as if I found the missing part of my soul, so in a sense you weren’t the love of my life, you are, my life. #Avastave #followthestory

Watch the video here: The Love Project

Learning to Surf the Waves

Sandy Hibbard — Fri, 06 Dec 2013 20:50:47 +0000

I’m snowed in today at home. We had a big ice storm last night in Plano Texas and my power went out around 12:30am. Power is still out and I – am being forced – to learn again how to be quiet within myself. I am also honing in on my survival skills! It didn’t take long for me to get hungry for something nice and hot, so I decided to brew a pot of espresso in my fireplace, and guess what? It was delicious! Guess what else? I’m fine! Even though I can’t get out of my house, the streets are too treacherous to drive on and my only connectivity is my precious iPhone that I am rationing out usage on because there’s no electricity to recharge it with, I am good with myself.

As I tell you often, I am learning to go with the flow. I am learning to be content with the way things are. And yes I throw fits and get unhappy, act like a shit, and feel completely unsettled sometimes – that’s when a call to a friend, a glass of wine and a good cry by the fireplace helps.

My blessings are in my face today in this quiet cold downtime – I am upheld by my spirit, dear beautiful friends, wonderful family, and people who love me, I am grateful that I am really never alone. Thanks to all of you, you know who you are.

I’m going to sign out now so I can finish drinking this hot cup of campfire coffee before it gets cold…

Love and hugs,

Sandy

SAFE with Want and Desire our New (old) BFF's

Sandy Hibbard — Tue, 05 Nov 2013 13:19:07 +0000

I have to share a few thoughts on this poem I wrote. I actually wrote this months ago and yes, I was there in my favorite cafe with my headphones on when I suddenly realized how isolated I was from the world, that’s when these words came to me. I was reminded of them again this week in NYC when I was in a cafe and noticed that even if I wanted to have a conversation with someone, I couldn’t. Everyone was on their smartphone or laptop and in their own safe cocoon. How do we break through these techno-bubbles to really connect with a new person? Think about it and then share your thoughts with me. XOXO Sandy
Safe
want and desire
want and desire
they have schemed again with my mind
the great and mighty judge
to put me in my place
and keep me right where i belong
alone with my feelings
not good enough
not worthy of love
here i am wrapped up in my self-made
cocoon
of iTunes
ear buds in my ear
hands on my Apple
in the midst of a crowded
bustling Cafe Brazil
this is sunday brunch for me
nice and safe
no communication
no intimacy
no one can see me
just want and desire
i don’t have to expose who i really am
i don’t have to have a conversation
no eye contact for god’s sake
just good observation
safe here with my esteemed judge
alone with my favorite guys
want and desire
nice and safe
tucked away where no one can get to me
and where i certainly can’t get to anyone